Thursday 14 March 2013

The Elegance of the Hedgehog

This is the summary of the book on the back cover: "Renée is the concierge of a grand Parisian apartment building, home to members of the great and the good. Over the years she has maintained her carefully constructed persona as someone reliable but totally uncultivated, in keeping, she feels, with society's expectations of what a concierge should be. But beneath this façade lies the real Renée: passionate about culture and the arts, and more knowledgeable in many ways than her employers with their outwardly successful but emotionally void lives. Down in her lodge, apart from weekly visits by her one friend Manuela, Renée lives resigned to her lonely lot with only her cat for company. Meanwhile, several floors up, twelve-year-old Paloma Josse is determined to avoid the pampered and vacuous future laid out for her, and decides to end her life on her thirteenth birthday. But unknown to them both, the sudden death of one of their privileged neighbours will dramatically alter their lives forever." 

Kitty's recent posts on Poking at Personas reminded me of a passage in the book. At the time when I read it I knew nothing about Narcissism yet but the description struck me so much because it described so well not only what happens when you poke behind someone's mask but how the discovery of what's behind the mask made me feel. I even highlighted the whole passage in fluorescent yellow so that I would be able to find it easily. In the story, Paloma is taken to her mother's shrink and she pokes behind his mask:
"At first I was really pleased with myself. I had managed to make him move. But as the day went on I started to feel more and more depressed. Because what happened when he moved was something not very nice, not very decent. So what if I know there are adults who wear masks that are all sweetness and light but who are very hard and ugly underneath, and so what if I know that all you have to do is see right through them for their masks to fall; when it happens with this sort of violence, it hurts. When he slapped the blotter, what it meant was, 'Fine, you see me as I am, no point carrying this useless farce, it's a done deal, you pathetic little bargain, now get the hell out of here, and fast.' Well, that hurt, yes, it hurt."

I think I need to read this book again. I'm sure I'm going to see a lot of stuff that I missed the first time around.


10 comments:

  1. Sounds like a great book. I'm going to order it from Amazon today...I've been trying my hand at fiction writing, and this writer sounds like someone I'd like to emulate. So it not only fits with our recent discussions about personas, but also fits other interests of mine. I love how our discussions do that! It's almost eerie how often they come full circle in my life. Or maybe it isn't--maybe it's just what happens when you hang out with people who have a lot to teach you. Anyway, thanks for the post K, and I'll let you how I like the book (it may take me awhile to get to it, though).

    Love,
    Kitty

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    1. Yes, I agree, it's so nice to be able to discuss different subjects. I love our discussions too.
      I hope you do write a book, you have enough experience to create a meaningful and beautiful story and you're a good writer. Keep us posted.
      Love,
      Kara

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  2. It's amazing how obvious narcissistic behavior is once you know what it is.

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    1. It really amazes me too, Judy. It has a definite pattern and once you see it, you can always spot it. xx

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  3. You can spot it, sure...but maybe not fast enough to protect your butt. ha~ Just ask me...I'm covered in scorch marks. What's been hard for me to understand is that MOST people don't want to be prodded and poked and confronted into "dropping their mask".

    So in my naivete, I've "seen right through them" assuming they'd appreciate a dose of reality. Whoah...that may be where we came up with the phrase, "Don't Poke the Sleeping Bear."

    (not that I always react kindly to someone "pulling my covers/mask" but I certainly don't want to destroy them!!)

    Love,
    CZ

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    1. Yep, "Don't Poke the Sleeping Bear" sounds like a good policy ;) and another one (inspired by your latest post) would be: "Never let the Dorian Greys know you've seen their portrait"

      Love,
      Kara

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    2. Ooh, I just happened to see The Picture of Dorian Grey for the first time a few hours ago!

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    3. What did you think of it?

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  4. Well, I had known the rudiments of the story, but I had not realized there was so much hope and redemption in it! Also, the dialogue was really good, which I guess I should have expected from Oscar Wilde. I should really read more of him, and of Noel Coward; I think I'd like the wit.

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    1. Yes, Oscar Wilde was brilliant at writing dialogues. I have read most of his plays and the wittiness of the dialogues just blows you away. I haven't read any Noel Coward but I suspect he's just as good. One more to add to the To-Be-Read list ;)

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