Thursday, 21 February 2013

Narc Management

Answer someone stupid according to his foolishness, 
that he may not become wise in his own eyes.
Prov 26:5
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"Sydney, Australia: A crowded Virgin flight was cancelled after Virgin's 767s had been withdrawn from service. A single check-in attendant was re-booking a long line of inconvenienced travellers. Suddenly an angry passenger pushed his way to the desk, slapped his ticket down on the counter and demands preferential treatment.
Stroppy Passenger: I HAVE to be on this flight and it HAS TO BE FIRST CLASS.
Check-In: I'm sorry sir. I'll be happy to try to help you, but I've got to help these people first, and I'm sure we'll be able to work something out.
Stroppy Passenger: (loudly, so whole queue can hear) DO YOU HAVE ANY IDEA OF WHO I AM?
The check-in attendant's response was made using the public address microphone so that the whole terminal hears it.
Check-In: May I have your attention please, may I have your attention please. We have a passenger here at Gate 14 WHO DOES NOT KNOW WHO HE IS. If anyone can help him find his identity, please come to Gate 14.
The queuing passengers are now laughing.
Stroppy Passenger: F*** You!
Check-In: I'm sorry, sir, but you'll have to get in line for that too."

Someone my husband knows posted this story on FB. I suspect that this is one of those stories that circulate the net and quite probably not true. However, it did make me think that half of my problems with narcs are because of not knowing how to manage them. One of my goals this year is to learn more about how to manage situations in more effective ways.


  1. That's hilarious! I wouldn't be surprised if it was true. Thanks for starting my day with laughter.

  2. LOL! A great story - real or not. Yes! Great goal - Narc management - so wish this was an elective at school. xxoo

  3. I read this story before getting out of bed this morning and laughed all the way to the coffeepot! One of my cyberfriends is a flight attendant. I'll pass your story on to her! She has great stories to tell, as you can well imagine! For some reason, people get in the air and think they've "above the law." ha!

  4. Thanks for the feedback guys. I'm glad you all got a good laugh, dealing with narcissists can be so dreary, we can do with all the sense of humour we can muster ;) xxoo

  5. Great story--I wonder how many people are acting out like that these days? Everyone travels like cattle, even in domestic first class. The only people who are treated decently are those who have their own private jets. And the poor airline staff--hated, overworked, underpaid. Like the pilots and mechanics. Reminds me of that flight attendant a few years ago who'd had enough of a rude passenger on the ground and opened the emergency shute. Remember him? xxx

    1. I hadn't heard of the story haha I'd loved to see the passenger's face when he opened the emergency shute :)

  6. LOL. That was awesome. Jim travels almost every week for work and is always posting his frustrations (everything you said, CS) on FB. He will love this story.

    Learning how to handle Ns better is a good goal, I think. Years ago I read a book called The Gentle Art of Verbal Self Defense, which is all about dealing with manipulative communication patterns. It was a brilliant book, and even if I don't always remember the correct responses, I have gotten pretty good at recognizing when people are trying to manipulate me, and not playing along. Anyway, it was fun to read and might be a help to you.


    1. Thanks for the recommendation Kitty, I'm fast-tracking it to the top of the list ;) xxoo

    2. Thank you - will check that out. xx

  7. I am laughing so hard now. Thank you for this post!