Last night a friend sent me a link to a book about manipulative parents. Unfortunately, at the moment this book is only available in French (though I saw on Amazon that an English and Spanish translation might be available this September). The write up that my friend sent, had this phrase:
"these parents tend to make their children feel worthless, show little interest in their successes, and offer them no support when they are going through a difficult period."
That is the definition of my parents, simply put.