tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4064738625582104602.post9009366912519282001..comments2023-05-03T15:14:46.369+01:00Comments on Through the Looking Glass: Parade's EndUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4064738625582104602.post-21778376907605130592014-08-05T13:03:52.928+01:002014-08-05T13:03:52.928+01:00Thanks TR, good points. xxThanks TR, good points. xxKarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14470007362954479373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4064738625582104602.post-26348589321852106782014-08-05T08:55:43.218+01:002014-08-05T08:55:43.218+01:00Great thought provoking post and comments! It is ...Great thought provoking post and comments! It is difficult to discern, as CS mentioned. There are different ways selfishness is expressed (shades - Ruth says) and I guess, if the selfishness is routinely expressed at the expense of my feelings, then that would fall under unhealthy. How consistent and frequent are perhaps an individual boundary/tipping point. xx TRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08532757489135750861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4064738625582104602.post-50543202370628460242014-08-04T12:50:43.702+01:002014-08-04T12:50:43.702+01:00Thanks CS, yes, when we look at the long term patt...Thanks CS, yes, when we look at the long term pattern, it is easier to discern. xxKarahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14470007362954479373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4064738625582104602.post-36223685260643211322014-08-04T12:30:55.299+01:002014-08-04T12:30:55.299+01:00Hi K, it's hard to sort out sometimes. There ...Hi K, it's hard to sort out sometimes. There may be times in people's lives when they need to be more "selfish" or self-absorbed, and I try to make allowance for that in my head, when dealing with friends. Crisis times for people are when I'd expect them to think mostly only of themselves. For me, it's the longer view. I think we can only get to know people over time, and there's a rhythm to normal self-absorption, it ebbs and flows. Those who are truly narcissistic tend to be very consistent. We ACoNs who've been working on this stuff have fine-tuned our radar for some of the differences I think. There's such a wide range, isn't there? xo CSCalibans Sisterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04817489284771105048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4064738625582104602.post-7965158499590876802014-08-04T12:19:48.335+01:002014-08-04T12:19:48.335+01:00Thanks Ruth, that's another aspect I hadn'...Thanks Ruth, that's another aspect I hadn't thought of. Karahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14470007362954479373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4064738625582104602.post-10345737933134668882014-08-04T05:48:27.610+01:002014-08-04T05:48:27.610+01:00Another shade of person is self focused. They can...Another shade of person is self focused. They can be generous and concerned for others but their over all focus is on their own boundaries and needs. I am learning how many variants there can be with people. Ruthhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07083142637240943607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4064738625582104602.post-45966122706173441142014-08-03T21:22:22.565+01:002014-08-03T21:22:22.565+01:00That's a very good point too, Judy.That's a very good point too, Judy. Karahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14470007362954479373noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4064738625582104602.post-39022755671312828412014-08-03T19:17:01.717+01:002014-08-03T19:17:01.717+01:00I never thought to consider the difference. This m...I never thought to consider the difference. This makes sense. It also fits with my sister's blog about acceptance. One of the first steps to change is acceptance. If I'm not willing to accept the truth of where I am, I can never see the need to even look for a way out. Judyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07843239483061220089noreply@blogger.com